I really love the word "fuck." It's subversive and surprising and construes far more emotion than most words I know. I especially like "fuck" to describe sex. "Fuck" is a far better substitute than other terms and phrases.
Like making love. What the hell does that mean? Sex is not contingent on love. Sex is a physical act. It's like saying that you need to be happy to go for run. That doesn't make sense.
The ambiguous "it." What is it? Also, how old are we? Really? If you can't say sex, you shouldn't be having sex.
The "nasty." Ugh. Sex, when you think about it, is gross. When you are having sex, you probably shouldn't be thinking that it's nasty. Why would you willingly subject yourself to something "nasty?" Maybe I just don't get it, but it's annoying.
The "deed" Which deed? It makes sex sound like an obligation. Or like a contract. Are you selling property or are you fucking? I'm confused.
Smash. No. Just no. Saying that two peopled smashed sounds like two people ran at each and literally smashed into each other. It's a three year old's description of sex. Things can and do get smashed in the process of sex, but that should not be the defining aspect of sex. Also, smashed is for when you drink too much. Which can lead to sex, but again this should not define sex. And if exessive drinking is so involved in your fucking experiences, you should re-evaluate your choices.
Going to bed with. Beds, like love, are not necessary for sex. They make it comfortable, but it's inaccurate to call sex going to bed with. If we wanted to make it accurate, I could say I went to couch with him. Or floor. Or counter. You get it.
Staying the night. You don't always stay the night when you have sex. You don't always have sex at night. Also, what if you just legitimately stayed the night? Like slept on your alleged sex partner's couch. How would you describe that. You can't say you stayed the night because suddenly y'all had a lot more fun than you really did.
I use fuck. Or sex. Fuck is crass. It gets to the nitty gritty of it. Fuck describes the actual power relations at work. Sex is a power struggle. Traditionally it is thought that men are the active, power players in sex. But women have a powerful role too. Especially if she is active. Sex is two (or more) people equally trying to attain pleasure and give another pleasure. This is inherently messy. You work together and try to make it good for everyone involved. Anytime you work with people to increase mutual happiness, it gets disorganized and you end up just wanting to say "fuck." Fuck. We fucked. We are fucking. It's casual. It's direct. When you say you are fucking, there is an immediate image that comes to mind. It isn't anything cute like "making love" or "going to bed." It isn't mysterious like "it." It doesn't reek of old booze like "smash" or "nasty." If the sex you are having is more intimate than fucking, then call it something else. If you are legitimately making love, than call it that. Just be aware of what you are calling what.
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